My Husband was a Hard NO on Sex While I was Pregnant

Once I started to have a belly in my pregnancies, my husband was ❌🍆 not into it. 

If you read my email last week, you know our sex life went from fun and flirty to just get it done when we started TTC. And when we finally did conceive (five times), things didn’t get better …

In my first trimester I was really sick and just nervous to have anything up there where my little egg was trying to implant. So those first three months were a no go for me. 

Then, when I started to show my husband was a hard no, too. Something about having sex with a pregnant woman just wasn’t doing it for him and he couldn’t wrap his head around it. 

So for all the time I spent pregnant, we just didn’t have sex. At all. For months. On end. 

It was basically a year of celibacy for both of us for both of my full term pregnancies. We were left wondering if we’d ever get that fun and flirty sex life back or if TTC and having kids had ruined it for good. 

And honestly, we didn’t know how to talk about it. 

I felt a weird embarrassment because so many friends had told me that pregnancy hormones made you horny AF and I would be having the best sex of my life. 

This was definitely not that.

But when I started opening up about it, I (of course) discovered that lots of women had experienced the same thing. It is so important for us to have safe communities where we can share what we’re experiencing in pregnancy and motherhood (and really all of life!).

When I was able to connect with other women who had experienced celibacy during their pregnancy too, I realized we weren’t weird and dysfunctional. It was so validating to know this was a very real thing for a lot of people and for a lot of reasons.

I don’t have all the answers on how to deal with your sex life changing during this season of life, but I do know that community changes things. If you haven’t found your village yet, join mine!

I’d love for you to join our conversations on Instagram @kelly.the.momcoach and save your spot for the upcoming moms retreat in Cabo. This is a perfect getaway to connect with other moms, get away from the chaos, and let Hannah and I fill up your cup. Learn more about it here.

XO,

Kelly

P.S. If you’re in the middle of touch being strongly off limits and wondering if you’ll get your groove back, stick around. The sexy ending to this story is coming next week 😉

P.P.S. If you had crazy pregnancy hormones that gave you the best sex of your life, enjoy it like crazy for the rest of us 💦